+38 The reason men don't have support is because of other men. amirite?

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

"As a woman." As if all women are loving, supportive, and encouraging lol.

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Yeah the problem here is the amount of men who think that love support and encouragement have to to come from one woman.

by lynchadell 3 weeks ago

I think I was just stating that I am a woman. I know plenty of terrible women. Try H. Pearl Davis.

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

No, you said it in order to prove a point. Go outside.

by uhackett 3 weeks ago

I changed my wording, "kid". Does that help??

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

What are you talking about?

by uhackett 3 weeks ago

You're drawing mass generalizations about men, but when it comes to women only using yourself as an example. It's like if I said "women are catty and passive aggressive to each other." I, as a man, don't do this.

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Mass generalizations? Such as?

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

"The reason men don't have support is because of other men." "Men have all the power."

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

She's not incorrect in that. The manosphere is a particular example of men encouraging other men to be a particular way- but in general the people who will ridicule and bully a man who doesn't "act like a man" are other men.

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Maybe I'm too liberal in my wording. Which one of the superpowers is run by a woman? I haven't read much about female dictatorship. It might not be the men you surround yourself with. But it's definitely your male politicians, podcasters, entertainers, and "life coaches" your friends and male coworkers are listening to.

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

By that rationale, if men are the issue for their lack of support, wouldn't that rule apply to the military? Which is 75% male, and most would say a brotherhood.

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

It definitely applies to the military. Hell, most active duty service members I know are too scared to seek (intensely needed) therapy bc of how it could affect their career. The military is wildly misogynistic which isn't healthy for women OR men. Certainly service members in lateral roles are supportive to one another in a micro sense but as a whole the military itself is definitely a service members worst enemy. Source: I work in service to traumatized veterans.

by Long-Leading-6306 3 weeks ago

All my male friends show tons of love and support to me and others. What men do you know?

by Normal-War 3 weeks ago

not all guys are supportive of other guys

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

I'm not sure everyone is reading to understand this. If all the powerful men in the world were to outwardly support other men and be vulnerable with other men, then the world would be so. much. different. I know my boyfriend who happens to have healthy relationships with his male friends. But. His male family didn't encourage him being vulnerable. It took a lot of work for him to break free from that. It took the work of other men, actually.

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

lol. There's no way you have a boyfriend.

by uhackett 3 weeks ago

Society as a whole shuns men away from that, women too.

by mwaelchi 3 weeks ago

I think people in power tend to not show vulnerability if they are insecure. In my experiences, males that are vulnerable are usually more outspoken and confident to begin with. Sometimes internal issues manifest external issues.

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

So it's not men then... it's outdated societal norms.

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Lol, whether its golf, watching football, bowling, video games... There is a stigma against men actually spending time together in a relationship. I think maybe men spending time together should be normalized and encouraged in relationships.

by kasandramedhurs 3 weeks ago

I don't really know much about that, but if that is true then I agree. There shouldn't be a stigma around men hanging out with each other or enjoying each other's company.

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

What is this stigma? It seems pretty normal and okay for guys to do that.

by Professional-Put9803 3 weeks ago

I've never felt unsupported or judged by my male friends, women on the other hand, you'll give them the "ick" by just existing

by Square-Fox 3 weeks ago

And I am really happy for you.

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Try being gay in a public high school lol

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

I'm pretty sure that's illegal, I like women around my own age

by Square-Fox 3 weeks ago

I dont think being gay is illegal in the US

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

I was obviously talking about being a gay teenager at a public high school and being supported by your male peers but instead I got met with this completely unserious response

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

So?

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

How do men have all the power? What about all the male oriented shelters/mental health clinics that get literally attacked and protested against by feminists?

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

You can say 'kill himself', nothing deflates an argument quite like censorship.

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

of course true feminism supports all genders Cool. Well in that case all true men don't actually have al the power. It's all the fake men. Your point and (possibly) anger is directed in the wrong place. You're going after the true men when really you should be going after the fake men.

by MudPublic 3 weeks ago

I feel like it's not an uncommon thing though. There have been situations like that quite a few times, possibly to the point where men are now entirely discouraged from opening male oriented health/shelter centres. Seems like the argument always is "it's excluding women who are more deserving" despite the fact that countless female only shelters exist already.

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Do you have other examples?

by Radiant-Ganache 3 weeks ago

GF: "I just want him to show his vulnerable side to me, that he has emotions." BF: opens up and ends up crying in front of her GF: "So I saw him crying the other day and now I just can't see him the same as before. I've lost all respect for him." Yep definitely just because of other men...

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Men have all the power. Look at all those men being conscripted to fight in a war in Ukraine, such power.

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

By whom?

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

The government, which is made up of men AND WOMEN.

by Prosaccomabelle 3 weeks ago

Not sure where it stands currently. But in 2019 4 out of the 5 largest military defense contractors had women CEOs.

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Go outside.

by uhackett 3 weeks ago

Go outside

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

To where guys tell each other to be a man while simultaneously dying en masse from untreated mental health issues. When was the last time you interacted with society in general?

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Yeah, men's issues exist. It's not solely men's fault nor am I doomed to never find anyone who cares about me because of it. Go outside.

by uhackett 3 weeks ago

not solely men's fault Who established the norms we abide by forehead. Anyways here's hoping you don't end up one of those statistics.

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

No one cares. You're literally on this website daily though I checked your profile and everything. Go outside.

by uhackett 3 weeks ago

Certainly not me or anyone I know. Patriarchal societal norms were created by old people from before we were born that were stuck with and slowly trying to grow out of.

by Pristine-South 3 weeks ago

I'm happy you have healthy male relationships. It's unfortunate the experience you have had with women and I can only hope that this changes for you in the future.

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

You've confused me. So you were referring to all women?

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

If this is true, why do women have much higher rates of diagnosed mental illness compared to men?

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Cause they actually go to the doctor to get diagnosed?

by Johnpaulaufderh 3 weeks ago

Because we take our issues seriously? Our friends encourage us to seek help?

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Leave the house and get off the internet. Nothing is ever going to change in that sense. Say this saying to yourself a few times : "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference"

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

No you

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

That does not make any sense. Omg, nevermind -

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

If you think men have all the power, you're not paying attention. They have systemic advantage, but certainly not all the power.

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

As a woman... Yeesh, y'all are even more toxic in comparison; smiling assassins, the lot of you. Yeah, we know, thanks for the heads up.

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

You always see some men say that they never get complimented, so compliment each other then? Are compliments only valid if they come from the opposite sex? Women compliment each other all the time. They probably value them more because they know they're not being flirted on. Also with sexual assault. I've seen so many men make fun of other men for getting assaulted. If the assaulter is a man, it's "why didn't you punch him". If it's a woman, "nice".

by Johnpaulaufderh 3 weeks ago

Thank you! Valid points

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

"Men have all the power" See yourself out please

by alfred74 3 weeks ago

I am alone because it is my fault. My friends were always awesome and supportive.

by Otherwise_Meal 3 weeks ago

Yeaaaa, this comes off extremely sexist

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

As a woman this is so off base.

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

And honestly to go off on that tangent, my reply would be, "sorry we're just not as good at it".

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

If we have all the power, why aren't we all earning trillions per second since the very moment we were born? The gist is understood, though.

by Party_Meaning1074 3 weeks ago

Why do specifically men or women need to be blamed? We're all to blame for this. If you do support the fellow men in your life then please carry on, you're helping make the difference, but please don't pretend there isn't a problem.

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

Ironically men are more likely to share their feelings with other men.

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago

so true though

by Dry_Channel 3 weeks ago

I'm a man who grew up in a family of women. Women are no more supportive than anyone else. A world with women at the helm would be no better.

by Qwilderman 3 weeks ago

I don't know those people you refer to. I am nice to people I know But if they act overtly like a bi$%h I will kindly tell them to man up. If men don't man up, who will?

by Anonymous 3 weeks ago