I hardly see parents teaching their kids' table manners anymore. It's disappointing.

by kubamber 1 week ago

refill the water of someone sitting next to them in what restaurant does this need to be done?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Some places bring pitchers of water to the table instead of having a waiter constantly refilling. I was always taught that it's polite to pour for the person next to you, especially if they are a woman. Kinda like the whole thing of not refilling your own saké glass, you refill the other person's. This isn't my biggest gripe at all, I can easily see people missing this social que, my biggest issue is food consumption noises.

by Jaded_Toe_9506 1 week ago

I was taught that too, but I still think it's weird. People can get their own water if and when they feel like it, and then they can decide how much they want.

by Laceyward 1 week ago

Why is it weird? It's a way of showing them that you're paying attention and taking care of them in a sense. Water is so abundant too it's not like they have to drink it if they don't want to. It's more about the sentiment, especially if you're going to fill up your glass too - shows you're not only thinking of yourself

by Strange-Lobster3294 1 week ago

i was never taught that

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Barbarian!

by kaya80 1 week ago

I can tell the difference from my Millenial cousins and Gen Z cousin. I am millenial and the Gen Z cousin was definitely raised less "proper". The Millenial cousins never had phones at the table (in all fairness, didn't exist, but we never had the TV on during dining) and we were taught basics of how to use knife and fork properly. The Gen Alpha toddlers can't eat without a phone in front with Coco Melon on. Gen Z cousin was the baby (18 years younger than us, the Millenial cousins were all within 6 years) and raised much less strict. Into her early teens she would chew on chicken wing bones at the restaurant. She would use her hands to grab a bunch of sushi rolls and stuff them into her mouth. When the waitress removes our plates, if she was not done (chewing on scraps) she would, out of habit, whine "hhheeeeyyyyyyy". Even to this day, when we went out for Asian food, she would use her chopsticks like a knife to split a piece of food apart. I don't even think she knows how to use a steak knife properly. Tried to teach her basic manners, but it just goes in one ear and out the other. She is not rude to people though, just barbaric in some ways.

by kaya80 1 week ago

Yes! I notice this as well and it still surprises me. I really value manners and was always taught them growing up (26F). I see them as a form of respect to the other people you're dining with and I think that's unfortunately lost on a lot of people. I always enjoy meals so much more with people that have good manners

by Strange-Lobster3294 1 week ago

There is absolutely no excuse for adults to eat as gross as they do. I don't care about any reasoning WHY you eat like a pig. It shouldn't be like that as an adult.

by Prior-Cartographer19 1 week ago