Chivalry and respect are two completely different things. You don't have to respect a woman to be chivalrous

by Anonymous 12 years ago

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by Anonymous 12 years ago

She's completely right... Proof: (dictionary): the sum of the ideal qualifications of a knight, including courtesy, generosity, valor, and dexterity in arms. Respect is something completely different and yeah it is something you earn: to hold in esteem or honor; to show regard or consideration for: to respect someone's rights. courtesy and respect are completely different.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

lol dexterity in arms

by Anonymous 12 years ago

1. a relation or reference to a particular thing or situation 2. an act of giving particular attention 3. high or special regard 4. the quality or state of being I get what she's saying, but it extremely obvious that my definition of respect is number 3, when she thought I meant 2. I meant to the point of women expected chivalry in the form of high respect towards women, obviously "high or special regard".

by Anonymous 12 years ago

okay so for a little more clarification did you mean, for example, that girls shouldn't expect guys to do things like open doors for girls and things like that?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Just they shouldn't expect us to treat them like we regard them so specially when they want to be treated like everyone else

by Anonymous 12 years ago

oh okay yeah! then you've won my vote :] I agree I think something like that should go both ways.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

AND HERE'S A TIP FELLOW LADIES: You don't get respect from sleeping with everyone!

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Why not? It's just something people do cause it feels good. I don't hear of men getting less respect for having sex all the time

by Anonymous 12 years ago

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by Anonymous 12 years ago

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by Anonymous 12 years ago

It's called self restraint and self discipline, it gets you a lot of respect

by Anonymous 12 years ago

You can have self restraint and self discipline and a ton of sex. Having a lot of sex doesn't mean you lack discipline, it just means you have sex.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It kinda does... if you can't resist the temptation to have sex, then you lack self discipline. Having self discipline in only the things you want to, isn't self discipline.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

But not having sex doesn't mean you are "resisting the temptation of having sex" it means you don't feel like having sex. Having sex doesn't mean you are weak; it means you chose to have sex. There is a huge difference.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

But not having a cigarette doesn't mean you are "resisting the temptation of having a smoke" it means you don't feel like smoking. Smoking doesn't mean you are weak; it means you chose to smoke. There is a huge difference.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I think you were actually trying to be sarcastic but I actually agree with what you said about smoking. It's still a pretty flawed comparison because smoking can give you lung cancer and sex won't hurt you so long as you get scanned for STDs and everything. I don't go around judging people because they smoke or have sex because it doesn't matter one bit. Instead, I judge people on important things like courage, integrity and generosity.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Self discipline is a very important thing to have. I don't judge people who smoke cigarette either, but I sure wouldn't believe them if they said they choose to smoke and that they're not addicted. In the same way, I wouldn't trust someone if they say that they "choose" to have sex, because if you bet them they won't stay celibate for an effective amount of time, then you're probably going to win that bet. There are probably people who choose to have sex, just like there are people who choose to do heroine, but chances are they're addicted. And this is all things held constant, for the sake of the analogy, you can't think about the negative effects of sex or drugs.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Being addicted to heroine and liking sex are too very different things. People have sex because they want to have sex. It's not a weakness or an addition. It's a normal, natural, fun part of life. It's great to not want to have sex, but that doesn't mean you are stronger or better than people who do have sex. Almost all people have sex at some point and not everybody is weak. I still don't like the drugs/sex analogy because drugs are bad and there is nothing wrong with sex.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

How are they different? People do drugs, because they want to do drugs, they're not being forced to do it... no one has a gun to their head? Marijuana is natural, shrooms are natural, are they good? And you CAN be addicted to having sex... look it up. Breaking that addiction DOES in fact make you better, because that's the definition of better, being able to do what others can't.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

If you have some crazy sex-related mental disorders, then I guess you are right about sex being bad, but if your just a normal person, sex isn't like drugs at all. There is a difference between between sex and drugs. Your biological parents (unless you are the child of artificial insemination) had sex but I think you'd feel differently about them if they went around doing shooms. As long as you aren't suffering from a strange sex-related psychological disorder, not having sex won't make you "better" like getting off drugs will. You probably weren't even sick in the first place. If having sex and doing drugs were really all that similar, sex would be illegal.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I'm not arguing that sex is bad though, what I'm arguing is about self control. Lacking in self control isn't good and a good example of lack of self control is when someone is on drugs. Having the self control to not have sex with every person you meet is good. It is good, because people who tend to sleep with a lot of people tend to not stay in relationships, so if the woman gets pregnant, chances are the guy is going to ditch her. And after the dad ditches her then the child will be raised without a dad. Now this will make things harder on the woman, who has to raise the child on her own and although a woman MAY be able to raise a good child on her own, it sure would be a lot easier if there was someone else helping her around the house.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Oh I see it's just a reworded version of the "don't have sex or you will get pregnant and die" crap. I would say something about how birth control pills can prevent pregnancy, but I assume you'll probably just tell me that they don't ever work or some shit like that. I love how you think people who have sex are irresponsible, stupid, sluts who act like they do drugs and get ditched by their jackass boyfriends. It's like you don't see that there are normal happy healthy women out there who have sex.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Did I? I didn't even say that... I completely blamed this on the guy.... A guy who has had multiple sex partners has a harder time settling down (proven research does show this) so after the guy and girl decide to have kids (so this means they don't plan on using condoms or anything) and they perform the deed, the guy walks out... where in this story was the woman a slut or irresponsible (well other than having sex before locking him in with a ring and child support if he does decide to leave)?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I have no idea what you are talking about now. Why are we blaming people for sex anyway? What I've been trying to say the whole time is have as much sex as you want to and don't judge people for it because how much sex you have doesn't fucking matter.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It does matter though. There is research to back that up. And it's not done by conservatives who want to oppress women and treat them like objects. The amount of sex you have DOES play a role in your life, depending on if it's with one person or multiple partners DOES play a big role in your relationship with other people. This isn't my opinion, it's a proven fact.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

No. It's a stupid fucking stereotype. There's no legitimate research out there that says people who have sex are bad, evil, failures. There are millions of people out there who have happy successful people out there with active, yet healthy sex lives.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I never said that they're evil or failures. What I said is that people who tend to like multiple partners... tend to like multiple partners? Which although redundant seems incomprehensible to you? Zebra doesn't change his stripes? Old habits die hard? If you're used to having multiple partners, then when you're in a committed relationship, you'll have trouble actually staying committed...?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Okay then. I don't know what you are trying to say with this. If you are saying that a persons sex life doesn't affect whether they are good or bad person then I agree with you.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Sex is so demonized but why? because its fun?

by Anonymous 7 years ago

If you want to be treated like men, then we'll joke about you being different. If you get all butthurt, we'll rip on you more. That's how internet sexism works.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Just sayin', women don't have complete equality, the bill was never passed.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I think that people should respect people until given a reason to do otherwise. Just because we are equal doesn't mean we don't still play different roles in life. Guys should treat a lady with respect, because they are ladies. Women should treat men with respect, because they are fellow human beings. And even if you don't respect them, treating them with decency is still called for.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

yeah like today this lady held the door open for a guy. to me that is equality in a way

by Anonymous 12 years ago

If I get to the door first and there is someone close behind me I'll open it for them, doesn't matter if they're a guy or a girl. Also I can open a door for myself, I'm not going to stand around and wait for a guy to do it for me. It is nice if he does though, or if another girl does. Anyway, my point is it shouldn't matter what gender you are, to be polite.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Me too. I always hold the door open for people, it's just the courteous thing to do.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I made this same point to my sisters and they got all offended like the bitches they are

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It's easy to get respect from a man just take off your shirt.... But seriously though. Outside of the MRA-bubble of back patters and battles of gender and whatnot If someone I open the door for doesn't open the door for me I just stop opening the door for them

by Anonymous 7 years ago